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Still not pregnant after four months of trying
March 7, 2011
11:59 am

So, we have been trying to get pregnant for four months now. This is somewhat of a milestone because I read that half of all couples trying to conceive succeeds within four months, but we are still not expecting a baby!

I have been doing – ovulation tests, regular baby dancing, at the time of ovulation, and I quit smoking six months ago. I am ovulating and we are doing everything to make it happen, so why not?

Would you start getting nervous after four months or do I just need to be a little more patient and think it will happen soon?

How long did you take to get pregannt, especially with the ovulation tests and all that?

March 9, 2011
7:04 am
Forum Posts: 6
Member Since:
March 9, 2011

  It can take up to a year and still be "normal"

Some women get pregnant their first cycle of


trying to conceive, some take longer.  Anything up to a year is

considered "normal".  Each month, a completely healthy, fertile woman

only has about a 20% chance of conceiving .  So 4 months is really not anything to worry about. 

What I would worry about is if you're not ovulating regularly.  How are

you tracking ovulation?  If you are irregular, I'd recommend NOT using

the method of tracking temperatures (BBT)…it's just too inaccurate and

subject to errors.  I'd get an ovulation predictor kit to use each

month (I'll link one in the widget section).  It costs approx $20, and

it'll help pinpoint your ovulation.  There are also more expensive

fertility monitors you could get as well, but I did fine with the less

expensive ovulation predictor kits.  They always pinpointed ovulation

for me (eventually, I was undergoing fertility treatments and getting

regular blood work and ultrasounds done throughout my cycle so I can

confirm that the ovulation predictor kits were accurate and easy to


Once you are tracking ovulation, count how many days there are between

ovulation and the start of menstruation.  This is the luteal phase, and

it should be approximately 14 days.  If it's less than 12, call your

gynecologist as a lutheal phase defect makes pregnancy less likely.


Besides the overall wellbeing of the

couple, there are a few other factors as well which will determine how

long it takes before you conceive. Some or all of these factors may be

in play when you and your partner are planning a baby.



1. Age – For reasons medical and otherwise it is

advisable that couples try for a pregnancy before the age of 35. After

35, there are increased chances of difficulty in conception as well as

deformities in the baby.

2. Past and Current medical treatments – When

consulting a General Practitioner for initial consultation on getting

pregnant, remember to clearly indicate all details of medical treatments

you have taken in the past or are taking currently. These medications

can interfere with your chances of getting pregnant and later with the

baby’s growth.

3. General Body Health – Healthier couples not

only have a more active and pleasurable sex life but their chances of

pregnancy are also higher than average. Start working out, practicing

yoga or just taking brisk walks together to tone up your mind and body

for the child to come. Pregnancy asks for a lot from you as a couple and

you should be in the best of health to deliver.

4. Reproductive Health – If you or your partner

suffer from any STDs or venereal diseases, it is better to manage those

before trying to get pregnant. Not only can reproductive diseases hamper

your chances of getting pregnant, they can also negatively affect the

baby’s growth during pregnancy.

5. Frequency of intercourse - For best results

when trying to get pregnant, understand how your body functions and work

around it. For women, during and around ovulation is the ideal time for

try for a baby. So time your intercourse around this period and have

frequent baby making sessions to boost your chances of getting pregnant.

6. Lifestyle – Besides all other harmful effects,

smoking and drinking also affect your baby making quotient. Couples who

smoke, drink or consume drugs are usually more prone to infertility

than others.

7. Stress – Trying to conceive can be stressful

on its own. But if it coupled with other home or work related stress you

might take a while to hit bull’s eye. Take it easy during this time and

manage your stress positively to boost your chances of getting

pregnant. In most cases relaxing and enjoying trying for a baby is the

best thing to do.

If you are aged 35 or under and have been trying to conceive

unsuccessfully for 12 months, you should contact your doctor. Your

doctor will work on an appropriate timetable for you which will help you

conceive. This time table will be based upon the specific needs and

circumstances of you and your partner. Even if you have not become

pregnant within 12 months, it does not necessarily mean that there is

something wrong, but you should consult your doctor just in case.

March 31, 2011
4:43 pm
Forum Posts: 282
Member Since:
June 14, 2010

Around half of all couples who have regular uprotected intercourse get pregnant within four months – but that also means that there's 50 percent who doesn't. I know that not being pregnant can be hard when you are very much hoping for a baby, but Baby786 is right – anything up to a year is totally normal. It might help you to know that 90 percent of couples is pregnant at the one year mark.

What does that mean for you? Keep on eating well, exercising regularly, and tracking your ovulation. Try and be patient, hard as it is, and we'll send you some baby dust!

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