So, we have been trying to get pregnant for four months now. This is somewhat of a milestone because I read that half of all couples trying to conceive succeeds within four months, but we are still not expecting a baby!
I have been doing – ovulation tests, regular baby dancing, at the time of ovulation, and I quit smoking six months ago. I am ovulating and we are doing everything to make it happen, so why not?
Would you start getting nervous after four months or do I just need to be a little more patient and think it will happen soon?
How long did you take to get pregannt, especially with the ovulation tests and all that?
March 9, 2011
It can take up to a year and still be "normal"
Some women get pregnant their first cycle of
trying to conceive, some take longer. Anything up to a year is
considered "normal". Each month, a completely healthy, fertile woman
only has about a 20% chance of conceiving . So 4 months is really not anything to worry about.
What I would worry about is if you're not ovulating regularly. How are
you tracking ovulation? If you are irregular, I'd recommend NOT using
the method of tracking temperatures (BBT)…it's just too inaccurate and
subject to errors. I'd get an ovulation predictor kit to use each
month (I'll link one in the widget section). It costs approx $20, and
it'll help pinpoint your ovulation. There are also more expensive
fertility monitors you could get as well, but I did fine with the less
expensive ovulation predictor kits. They always pinpointed ovulation
for me (eventually, I was undergoing fertility treatments and getting
regular blood work and ultrasounds done throughout my cycle so I can
confirm that the ovulation predictor kits were accurate and easy to
Once you are tracking ovulation, count how many days there are between
ovulation and the start of menstruation. This is the luteal phase, and
it should be approximately 14 days. If it's less than 12, call your
gynecologist as a lutheal phase defect makes pregnancy less likely.
Besides the overall wellbeing of the
couple, there are a few other factors as well which will determine how
long it takes before you conceive. Some or all of these factors may be
in play when you and your partner are planning a baby.
1. Age – For reasons medical and otherwise it is
advisable that couples try for a pregnancy before the age of 35. After
35, there are increased chances of difficulty in conception as well as
deformities in the baby.
2. Past and Current medical treatments – When
consulting a General Practitioner for initial consultation on getting
pregnant, remember to clearly indicate all details of medical treatments
you have taken in the past or are taking currently. These medications
can interfere with your chances of getting pregnant and later with the
3. General Body Health – Healthier couples not
only have a more active and pleasurable sex life but their chances of
pregnancy are also higher than average. Start working out, practicing
yoga or just taking brisk walks together to tone up your mind and body
for the child to come. Pregnancy asks for a lot from you as a couple and
you should be in the best of health to deliver.
4. Reproductive Health – If you or your partner
suffer from any STDs or venereal diseases, it is better to manage those
before trying to get pregnant. Not only can reproductive diseases hamper
your chances of getting pregnant, they can also negatively affect the
baby’s growth during pregnancy.
5. Frequency of intercourse - For best results
when trying to get pregnant, understand how your body functions and work
around it. For women, during and around ovulation is the ideal time for
try for a baby. So time your intercourse around this period and have
frequent baby making sessions to boost your chances of getting pregnant.
6. Lifestyle – Besides all other harmful effects,
smoking and drinking also affect your baby making quotient. Couples who
smoke, drink or consume drugs are usually more prone to infertility
7. Stress – Trying to conceive can be stressful
on its own. But if it coupled with other home or work related stress you
might take a while to hit bull’s eye. Take it easy during this time and
manage your stress positively to boost your chances of getting
pregnant. In most cases relaxing and enjoying trying for a baby is the
best thing to do.
If you are aged 35 or under and have been trying to conceive
unsuccessfully for 12 months, you should contact your doctor. Your
doctor will work on an appropriate timetable for you which will help you
conceive. This time table will be based upon the specific needs and
circumstances of you and your partner. Even if you have not become
pregnant within 12 months, it does not necessarily mean that there is
something wrong, but you should consult your doctor just in case.
June 14, 2010
Around half of all couples who have regular uprotected intercourse get pregnant within four months – but that also means that there's 50 percent who doesn't. I know that not being pregnant can be hard when you are very much hoping for a baby, but Baby786 is right – anything up to a year is totally normal. It might help you to know that 90 percent of couples is pregnant at the one year mark.
What does that mean for you? Keep on eating well, exercising regularly, and tracking your ovulation. Try and be patient, hard as it is, and we'll send you some baby dust!
Most Users Ever Online: 71
Currently Browsing this Page:
Guest Posters: 510