We, my partner and I, have been blessed with a lovely kid. Our lovely kid is now two years old, and we love him to bits! But, I had hyperemesis gravidarum throughout the pregnancy, and the pregnancy was one of the most difficult things I have ever been through in my life.
I am very against abortion, but I spent lots of time online with other ladies who had HG, and I can't say that I blame some of them for deciding to terminate the pregnancy. I was hospitalized and there were times I thought I was literally dying.
Now that we have a wonderful toddler, nobody seems to have any understanding for how difficult hyperemesis gravidarum really is. Even my mom is asking when we are going to have a second baby.
Believe me, I would LOVE to have a second baby! I would love to have another delightful and annoying little creature just like my son, or completely different. But I dread, dread, dread the thought of another pregnancy and know that many who have had hyperemesis gravidarum once have it again every time they are pregnant.
those women who keep getting pregnant and adding to their families knowing in advance they will be throwing up non stop and may well be hospitalized and on bed rest most their pregnancy are really saints. I am not sure I can do it. But my partner would love another one so much too.
i am really torn. Sorry for the novel. Hope someone can help.
June 14, 2010
That must be a horrible dilemma to be faced with! I have had easy and enjoyable pregnancies, so I am on no position at all to comment on your experience with hyperemesis gravidarum. I do have a friend who had three children, and had hyperemesis with all of them. I have to agree with you that a woman who can do that has to be one strong lady.
That's not to say that you are not a strong lady if you decide you cannot do it. I understand the wish for biological children very well, and had to have fertility treatment to get pregnant. But, one thing that enters my mind is the possibility of adoption. How do you feel about that? Sorry if my suggestion is offensive — it's just a thought.
All the best with your difficult decision!
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